No! No! I’m Not Ready for Spring!

By Joyce Nevola, LMSW, Bereavement Counselor

Those who are grieving the loss of a loved one are easily consoled by the deep freeze of winter. Darker days, barren trees, entombment in ice, hiding in hibernation all align with our aching hearts. Spring scares us! We may not be ready for sunshine, budding flowers, emergence into life, going outdoors, beginning again, feeling renewed, having fun!


The pain of grief does not disappear because a season changes and it is normal to feel the pressure of trying to be what we are not. So often others want us to spring back to life before we are ready. Honor your feelings, nurture your spirit, respect your confusion.


You are in control of your grief. Healing will happen in its own time and place!


The Hospice of Central New York Grief Center can help adults and children learn to cope with their grief. A person need not have a loved one in the Hospice program to take advantage of this service. Call 315-634-2208 for more information.